Last Sunday was Cinco de Mayo. The teams in our co-ed softball league were struggling with attendance issues due to the holiday. I didn't put the pieces together until a friend reminded me of the holiday.
"Oh, that wasn't even on my radar since I don't really celebrate it."
I feel the same way on Mother's Day. To me, Mother's Day isn't a reminder that I don't have kids. I'm reminded of that all the time. Especially when I get to sleep in until 9:30 a.m. on weekends and drink wine with my dinner and not feel guilty about catching a buzz.
I don't allow Mother's Day to turn into a day when I'm sad. Instead, I turn it into a celebration of my mom. I have the best mom, in case you didn't know. She is thoughtful and nice and funny and loves her family. And my mother-in-law is amazing as well. She has made me feel welcome since day one and I especially appreciate that I can be 100% myself around her and the rest of the family. I hit the in-law lottery and I'm very grateful.
If you are going through a painful time on Mother's Day, there is no greater time to reflect on your life and celebrate what you do have. Us pet owners ARE mothers too! We are responsible for the well being of the pets that we have adopted into our homes. My cat is a part of my family and she loves us, I know it. And since there is no "Aunt's Day" I take Mother's Day to celebrate the positive influential roll I play in the lives of my nieces. I may not be their mother but I hope I serve as a role model to them and that they see me as a major part of their lives.
Mother's Day doesn't have to be a time for you to feel sad. There is no shame to skipping church that day or turning off the television if you feel that the messages being sent out will cause you pain. As females, our worth isn't wrapped up in our ability (or inability) to produce children.
Be strong. Don't allow mass media and marketing ploys make you feel insignificant on this one Sunday in May because you aren't a mom. Celebrate your mom or a person who has had a positive influence in your life. Spoil your pet. Go on a date with your husband. Treat yourself to something nice. You deserve it!